It’s meant to be: Polygamy
- The Youth's Lens
- Feb 4, 2019
- 2 min read
Relationships add a lot to our lives, especially romantic ones. They add companionship, they give you support. All we give in return is commitment? Right?
This article isn’t about your partner controlling your life, rather it’s about the society we live in. We all know that being physically and emotionally involved with two different people at the same time is cheating. We know this because we’re surrounded by symbols shouting this message out to us. All we see, all the time, is couples either celebrating their one-month anniversary or someone getting married.
We live in a world where everything is black or white. Not in relationships, though. There is a grey in relationships, we just aren’t allowed to be aware about it. It’s called polygamy. Polygamy is the concept of being with multiple partners at once. No, it’s not just a synonym for ‘wh*re’ or ‘f**kboy’, sorry to break your bubble. Polygamy exists, and it’s not wrong, at least I don’t think it is. Moreover, there’s a certain amount of neutrality in your belief in this concept, a person doesn’t have to be against monogamy to be for polygamy.
According to me, there is a very scientific justification to the concept of polygamy, a very simple one at that. One of the purposes humans have as a race, is reproduction, to evolve. Which is why, technically you’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to if you have sexual relationships with multiple people, you’re passing on your genetic information. However, this doesn’t completely eliminate the possibility of someone cheating. If you commit to a person after agreeing to a monogamous relationship. Given that you were aware of the concept of polygamy, and then you get involved with multiple people, that’s cheating.
“I have to say I am always intrigued when people say “oh no no no, we’re not jealous, we’re not jealous”, and I have to just poke a little bit more, cause I’m a woman and I would be jealous…”- Ruth Langsford (Host, This Morning)
Now taking that into consideration, women may be a little more positive in consideration with monogamy, again this isn’t a sexist statement. It’s simple, males produce numerous sex cells every second, whereas females only ovulate once in 28 days. This causes them to be a lot pickier when it comes to sexual partners, hence they choose the most suitable one. This also isn’t a generalisation; a lot of women are as open to polygamy as men. Moreover, a lot of men are stringently against polygamy.
Hence, our relationships are being controlled by societal norms, and not us. This also happens because fewer people understand polygamous relationships and yet, create a contagious mindset against the concept. So, as progressive members of society - I urge you all to reflect upon your currently held beliefs and biases, and ask yourself, "where exactly did they come from?"
Written by Kabir Chatterjee
Edited by Nandini Nalam
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